Chapter Three
Dispelling The Myths That Bind
Lucy came to the Center for Grief, Loss & Transition upon the recommendation of a concerned friend. She explained how her beloved husband had been killed in a plane crash and how her life had become empty.
This charming, intelligent young widow was overwelmed by her loss, yet she wondered whether she really needed to talk about it. She consistently apologized for being a burden. And she watched the clock, so as not to trouble me for more time than was absolutely necessary. Perhaps like you, the wasn't sure she needed a therapist.
The oppressive ideas placed upon you by your culture may appear to contain your traumatic, complicated grief. You wonder whether it is all right to express your feelings. Or, if you do express your emotions, will you appear to be weak or perceived not to be doing so well?
Comparing your reactions to loss with those of others, or making judgements as to what grief must look like, challenges the healing process. Such thought processes may block what could be the natural, open expression of feelings. (Read The Book)
